Frustration and anger are the least tolerated emotions and behaviors in a relationship. This gets even more complicated when your partner grew up in a family or a culture where anger is expressed in a radically different manner.
There are three main types of situations that we encountered in our anger management with couples:
1. You express your frustration in a loud, intense manner (animated gestures, loud voice and yelling, breaking objects, etc.) and the other perceives you as offensive or dangerous.
2. You do not express your frustration for a while and then suddenly all the piled-up resentment explodes.
3. You do not express your anger and frustration (the Silent Anger) and that becomes passive-aggressiveness or physical illness (high blood pressure, high blood sugar, headaches, ulcers and gastritis, fatigue, depression, anxiety).
There are three main types of situations that we encountered in our anger management with couples:
1. You express your frustration in a loud, intense manner (animated gestures, loud voice and yelling, breaking objects, etc.) and the other perceives you as offensive or dangerous.
2. You do not express your frustration for a while and then suddenly all the piled-up resentment explodes.
3. You do not express your anger and frustration (the Silent Anger) and that becomes passive-aggressiveness or physical illness (high blood pressure, high blood sugar, headaches, ulcers and gastritis, fatigue, depression, anxiety).